Coming Home to Yourself: What Is Self Reclamation Therapy?

“What if I don’t even know who I am anymore?”

“What if I don’t even know who I am anymore?”

If this question touches something in you, know that you’re not alone. I sit with people every day who feel this way—folks who’ve spent years caring for everyone else, walking paths that once made sense but now feel hollow, or simply sensing they’ve lost touch with who they really are beneath all the roles they play.

Maybe you look in the mirror and wonder when you started feeling like a stranger to yourself. Maybe you’ve achieved everything you thought you wanted, but something essential feels missing. Or perhaps you’ve been so busy surviving and adapting that you’ve forgotten what it feels like to simply… be you.

This feeling of being disconnected isn’t something wrong with you. Often, it’s the result of ways you learned to protect yourself that worked beautifully at the time. Maybe you learned to be the caretaker, the achiever, the one who never needs anything, or the one who keeps the peace. These strategies might have saved you once, but now they might be keeping you from feeling fully alive.

This is where Self Reclamation Therapy gently enters.

Beyond Traditional Talk Therapy

Self Reclamation Therapy helps you find your way back to yourself—to the parts that may have gotten quiet, tucked away, or forgotten along the way. This isn’t the kind of therapy that focuses on managing symptoms or fixing problems. It’s more like… coming home to who you’ve always been underneath it all.

But here’s what makes this different: we don’t just talk about your life from the outside. We drop into your actual lived experience—what it feels like to be in your body, to carry your particular history, to navigate your relationships from the inside out. We pay attention to the wisdom that lives in your nervous system, the stories your body holds, and the parts of you that have been working so hard to keep you safe.

I weave together approaches like Internal Family Systems, body-based work, and story-telling therapy. This creates something that feels both grounded and spacious. We’re not trying to change you into someone new. Instead, we’re simply making space for you to remember who you’ve always been, even when life taught you to forget.

What Makes This Different?

Most therapy focuses on solving what’s wrong, but this work is more interested in what’s wanting to emerge. We’ll gently explore the stories and protective patterns that shaped you, while staying rooted in what’s happening right now—in your body, in this moment, in the space between us.

Maybe you notice how your chest tightens when you talk about disappointing someone. Maybe we discover together how your body holds the memory of learning it wasn’t safe to take up space. Or perhaps we find the part of you that’s been holding your breath, waiting for permission to exhale, to want things, to matter.

This work trusts your body’s wisdom and your own inner knowing. We go slow, we pay attention, and we never rush. Your nervous system gets to set the pace, not some predetermined timeline or treatment plan. Because here’s the truth: you know more about what you need than any expert ever could—sometimes you just need someone to sit with you while you remember how to listen to that knowing again.

Common Questions I Hear

“Will this feel like too much?” “Am I going to fall apart?” “What if I’ve been disconnected so long that there’s no way back?”

I hear these worries often, especially from people who’ve been holding it all together for so long, or who’ve tried therapy before and left feeling unseen. Maybe you’re used to being the strong one, the reliable one, the one who has it all figured out. The idea of softening, of not knowing, of feeling—it can seem terrifying.

This work puts your nervous system’s need for safety at the center of everything we do. We’re not trying to crack you open or overwhelm your system. Instead, we create a space where you can gradually, gently, come back into relationship with yourself.

Here’s what I know to be true: you haven’t disappeared. You’ve adapted, you’ve protected yourself, you’ve survived what you needed to survive. That’s not a failure—that’s incredible intelligence and strength. The parts of you that learned to go quiet, to hide, to hold back? They had good reasons. And this work? It’s not about going backward or undoing what got you here. It’s about moving forward with all the parts of you that are ready to be welcomed home, at their own pace, in their own time.

Beginning the Journey Back to Yourself

You don’t need to have it all figured out to begin—just a sense that something wants to shift, or maybe a quiet longing for something that feels more like you. Maybe it’s exhaustion with performing who you think you should be. Maybe it’s curiosity about what it would feel like to stop holding your breath. Maybe it’s just a whisper that says, “There has to be more than this.”

Whatever brought you here, know that it’s enough. You’re enough. Right now, exactly as you are, in all your complexity and contradiction and beautiful humanness.