Do you often feel like nothing you do is ever good enough? Are you constantly worried about making mistakes or letting others down? If so, you might be dealing with perfectionistic thinking. Maybe the difficult standards you set for yourself even bleed into your expectations of, and relationships with, others – causing unwanted friction and conflict. While striving for excellence can be positive, perfectionism can hold us back and cause unnecessary stress. Let’s explore what perfectionism is and how we can work towards healthier thought patterns.
Perfectionism is when we set extremely high standards for ourselves and feel upset when we don’t meet them. It’s like having an inner voice that always says, “It’s not good enough” or “You should have done better.” This way of thinking can affect our work, relationships, and overall happiness.
While it might seem like perfectionism helps us achieve more, it often does the opposite:
Perfectionism is HARD on us, so let’s address it.
1. Recognize Perfectionist Thoughts
The first step is to notice when you’re having perfectionistic thoughts. Some common ones are:
When you catch yourself thinking this way, pause and remind yourself that these thoughts aren’t helpful or realistic.
2. Challenge Your Thoughts
Ask yourself:
3. Set Realistic Goals
Instead of aiming for perfection, try setting goals that are challenging but achievable. Break big tasks into smaller steps and celebrate your progress along the way.
4. Practice Self-Compassion
Be kind to yourself when things don’t go as planned. Talk to yourself like you would to a good friend. Remember that everyone makes mistakes and has flaws – it’s part of being human.
5. Focus on the Process, Not Just the Outcome
Try to enjoy the journey of learning and improving, not just the end result. Ask yourself, “What can I learn from this experience?” instead of “Did I do it perfectly?”
6. Embrace “Good Enough”
Not everything needs to be perfect. For many tasks, doing a good job is enough. Save your energy for the things that truly matter most to you.
7. Makes Friends With Criticism
Remember that feedback, even if it feels negative, can help us grow. Try to see criticism as a chance to improve, not as proof that you’ve failed.
8. Delegate or Delete
If you struggle with perfectionism, you might feel like you have to do everything yourself in order for it to be done right but find it’s too overwhelming! Evaluate what can be done by others (embracing the ‘good enough’) and delegate. We all need help! Maybe there are even tasks that can be deleted.
9. Take Care of Yourself
Stress from perfectionism can take a toll on your health. Make sure to take breaks, get enough sleep, eat well, and do things you enjoy.
Overcoming perfectionism is a journey, not a destination. Be patient with yourself as you work on changing these thinking patterns. It’s okay if you slip back into old habits sometimes – what’s important is that you keep trying.
Remember, the goal isn’t to not have standards, but to set more realistic and healthy ones. By letting go of perfectionism, you can reduce stress, boost your confidence, and find more joy in your accomplishments.
If you’re struggling with perfectionism and find it’s seriously affecting your life, don’t hesitate to reach out to a mental health professional. They can provide personalized strategies to help you develop healthier thought patterns and improve your overall well-being.
You’re not alone in this journey. With time and practice, you can learn to be kinder to yourself and embrace the beauty of being imperfectly human.
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